If you can go on growing in this intimacy, which is no more excitement, then the joy will arise: first excitement, then love, then joy. Joy is the ultimate product, the fulfillment. Excitement is just a beginning, a triggering; it is not the end. And those who finish at excitement will never know what love is, will never know the mystery of love, will never know the joy of love. They will know sensations, excitement, passionate fever, but they will never know the grace that is love. They will never know how beautiful it is to be with a person with no excitement but with silence, with no words, with no effort to do anything. Just being together, sharing one space, one being, sharing each other, not thinking of what to do, what to say, where to go, how to enjoy; all those things are gone. The storm is over and there is silence. And it is not that you will not make love but it will not be a making really; it will be a love happening. It will happen out of grace, out of silence, out of rhythm; it will arise from your depths, it will not be bodily really. There is a sex which is spiritual, which has nothing to do with the body. Although the body partakes in it, participates in it, it is not the source of it. Then sex takes on the color of Tantra, only then.”

LET GO! DARSHAN DIARY – Osho

Thus we seek excitement, which is good. Go dancing, learn rock climbing, have passionate sex. Find what you can be excited about in your work. Take your son to a baseball game, just you two. Do something exciting, just one-on-one with each child individually. Plan something that would excite your spouse and surprise them. Or maybe start your first company. Be excited!

Now that you are getting excited, add love. Love is unconditional giving. it’s giving from a place of knowing there is an unlimited source of good within you. Your heart is wide open like the ocean, undefended. It’s the place where there is no mind. Sex now becomes just giving to each other, with no mind involved. Not trying to get anywhere, because you have experienced excitement. Mind is not tricking us into “thinking” we don’t have enough to give or we need to get first.

From this place, true joy emerges. It is the bliss of feeling alive with no mind, purely giving. You take risks, like starting a business, from the pure joy of giving of yourself in connection with others. You’re flowing, like water, because mind is not necessary other than to be a servant to who you really are.