Tony and his wife had a Question and Answer video call with people around the world on Wednesday. Couples and individuals got to ask the tough question like:

• “How do you rekindle the passion when it’s gone?”
• “What do I do when it’s my lovely wife that fired me from my job?”
• “How do I find the person that’s right for me?”
• and many more in this 1 hour video session

Tony, in his usual style, cuts right through to the truth. Sage and he have been married 16 happy years and they also have those moments where emotions run high. He’s learned a lot about what to do, and what not to do, after diving into marriage at 24 and instantly becoming a father to a 17 year old.

Those of you familiar with my work will hear the influence of David Deida and understanding the polarity of masculine and feminine energy. There are also many other useful distinctions you can apply today. They lay out some practical tips for single people looking for the one and to the several couples that want to deepen what they have together.

Go beyond the marketed consumer version of Valentine’s Day, which tells you spending money on external things is what creates happiness, and instead deepen your understanding of your mate, or potential mate, in a way that actually causes love to flourish.

Tony Robbins is one of the first Life Coaches and could be considered the father of Personal Development. In working with great athletes he realized everyone can use a coach to bring out their best. As a teenager he read over 700 books on personal growth, from psychology to esoteric works. He also was attending many seminars. Fortunately for the planet, he had the “luck” to attend a workshop where NLP was being taught by its originators, Richard Bandler and John Grinder. Immediately he knew NLP was one of the most powerful models of human change ever conceived and asked that profound question many masters ask, “Why doesn’t everyone know this?” He got famous for using the Fast Phobia Cure process in public to wipe out severe phobias in 30-minutes for which their therapist couldn’t make progress in at least 5 years. Over 30 years he has been teaching the distinctions of NLP (though he renamed it NAC), the new technology of change, and studying what makes the difference in human achievement and fulfillment.

Here’s a video of Tony where he compresses his best distinctions into a 20-minute talk to 1000 of the brightest minds on the planet. Pay close attention to these keys:

• The power of decisions
• The Six Human Needs
• The two things that control all of our outcomes
• Emotions as the ultimate driving force
• Emotional Fitness – having more range of emotions
• The challenge of our “Therapy Culture”

Notice today: What are the few predominant emotions you experience? That’s your life! Expand and choose some new emotions. Watch how important emotions are in the effectiveness of everyone around you. that’s how important they are to you.

Passion is a choice, not a discovery! It is giving ourselves permission to experience this emotion rather than stuff it down. Just practice being passionate today, even about eating your lunch. It’s a choice, not something we “find”.